A man

A man.. what I am going to discuss about is, a man who held a "post" called husband nor more suitable is partner for a girl..

How "he" should to be?

From my viewpoint, he should be a man. A man who is broad minded, hearted. The girl must feel he is everything and nothing else other than him. He should make the girl feel he is begin and ending for everything in her life. He must make a situation that nothing else without him, he should be the first and last in this world for her. He should be very patient with all her act. She can be nagging, irritating, torturing, possessive, cunning and whatever but he should accept her for what she is. Being loyalty is really something that we can be and nothing wrong if we try it. So try to be loyal with your girl. Be sincere. Don't act like gentlemen in front of her but condemning her at her back. Be lovingly partner for her.

Make her feel that she is special. Don't think people are watching out there. A person who don't have enough trust in his relationship (even) will not walk with hand in hand so give her some confidence. Make her feel that she is adorable. She will be the best thereafter. At least she will try to be the best nor like you wanted.

Be truthful with her. Don't lie to her. She will know. It's true. Guys not good in lying. He could be expert but with the girl who really loves him, he can't "perform" well. Don't hide things. Anything!!! Your secret will lead problem later!! It's not too late for you to tell her off whatever shit you have done so far. Don't worry she won't leave you. Don't ever try to cheat her if do don't let her to discover it. You are hurting her with all you can!! Yes you do. So before she discover better you tell her off what you did. If possible don't do anything once attach with the one you really wants.

I knew it's may take some times for you adopt a girl in your life. Until then don't "expect" anything from a girl called your girlfriend because she is not your sex doll. She can be the worst girl and ever and you have no rights to make her use. Only if you adopted her as your part then have the pleasure with all her willingness. Same, if you not willing to spend with her then don't have psychical contact with her. She gave all her everything to you and deserved the better from you. If can't, don't commit yourself into sex life with a girl. Don't make a girl feel that she is useless shit being with you. Most of guys are doing it.

She can be the best and ever but the way he treats her will make her think that she is useless. Don't make her stupid by telling your craps. She knew it. Basically girls are smart. Sometime they knew things better than you. So don't tell story if you can't keep your words. Tell her the true story with little strict. She is a human so should have the sense of understanding if she don't; you made a wrong choice. But most of the time guys use / like to repeat the same thing and over. She is not your maid so you don't have treat her bad. She is not your accompany who don't have any work so respect her time and energy. Ask opinion. You can be Bill Gate's only son, but nothing wrong of asking opinion from a person who spending time with you. That could stupidest idea and ever but it's ok.

Don't let her in sad and sorrow and you playing counter strike out there. Ask her what's wrong. She might say "fine". But nothing wrong if repeat it until you get the right answer which you think that caused her cry. The reason could be you, don't ask her stupid question as you knew the answer as that is you! So say sorry. Don't act like stranger. Girls will lost hope in you. Be firm in everything. Don't simply jealous or bossing her since you never been the one who called partner and all of sudden yelling at her mistake. Don't have to being so formal with your girl. Spill out whenever you feel fishy with her act.

Try to use nicer words to the one you're going to live with. Being supportive is the best thing you can do and the only thing won't make you feel that you were not lose much if you both not get along. Don't be so practical until she feel no life is here. As a man of a girl you should know how to keep a her happy. So give her all her space to talk all her craps. Don't make her hate you because of your neglecting. How busy also answer her calls and reply her message as fast as you can. Don't make her feel that she is lonely while having you as a partner. Don't make her look at her phone every hour, expecting your call and text message. Do it regularly at least she knows you are still care for her.

Try to be responsible partner for her. Do your part without she request. Don't make her please at you. If your girlfriend does, you are not good partner. Don't tease her in front of people. She won't appreciate your act. Both of you have some privacy. Scold her if she making mistake. Scold her in private, because she has something called feeling so don't hurt her in public although there's only few people. Sometimes we can't control our anger, humans natural so you can say sorry to her although you knew you never make mistake. You are telling that just for sake of her.

Be the one who you suppose to be. If you can't be the one please do not waste people's time who really living for you. Maybe you are thinking that "she is nice and really can commit with me" but inner you don't know how much she crying and hurting with all your act. One fine day she will say "hate you" when you are not ready to hear it and which you never expect at all. Don't think she is tolerating, yes she is and the same time she knows that she don't deserved all this. You could be the best man but she have to leave you if she can't stand with your acts and you can't stop her.

You may not aware of the value of something when it's next to you but you will regret once it's gone. Most of time we won't realize our happiness is in her but once she vanished your life will be miserable. Don't missed out anything! Don't let anger take part in your relationship and it's you who should lead it!

Written by,
A girl who lost in September, 11th..